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seven tips to finding a woman

by Eharmony Editorial Team - May 2, 2022

It’s a common refrain among single people of all ages and backgrounds – why is finding a good woman so hard? Perhaps you’re looking in the wrong places or your dating profile is accidentally emitting ‘don’t date me’ vibes. Whatever the reason, in this article you’ll find a handy guide to make looking for a woman to be in a relationship with a lot easier.

How to find a good woman

When it comes to finding a woman to develop a connection with, sitting back and wishing for the perfect relationship won’t help you. Here are some tips for anyone looking for a woman to date:

1. Get your life in order first.

 ‘I’m a nice person, why won’t anybody date me?’ The best way to attract a woman is to work on improving yourself and being comfortable in your own skin. No one person can fulfill all your needs and wants, so figuring out or at least trying to figure out all aspects of your life is ideal. That way, you can be a better partner. Keep in mind that you should also expect this of the person you’re dating.

TIP: Figure out what your personal and professional goals are, then work on achieving them.

2. Figure out what you want.

Every relationship is different. People have different likes, dislikes, goals, and relationship preferences. It’s best to take some time to figure out what yours are, both so you can focus your search on finding a woman with similar values and so you don’t waste time with someone who’s not the right fit. You don’t, want to spend six months with someone before realizing they don’t want kids and you do.

TIP: If therapy isn’t right for you at this time, keeping a daily journal with your thoughts and feelings can help.

3. Give it time.

The idea of love at first sight, or instant chemistry might sound thrilling but finding a good woman doesn’t work like that. You might find that your connection is stronger the more time you spend together, so don’t lose hope if your first date isn’t as good as you hoped it might be.

TIP: Give it three dates before you stop seeing the person. The additional time together will help you judge whether they’re a good match for you.

4. Take a look.

There will be times in your life when a relationship just isn’t a priority, and that’s okay. However, if finding a woman is something you want, then you need to put in some time and effort. Carve out time to set up a dating app profile and browse profiles, set aside time and money to go on fun dates and trips. In many ways, dating is a numbers game and the more time you spend looking for a woman, the better the odds you’ll find them.

TIP: Give yourself a daily time limit of profiles to look at, or number of people to ask out.

5. Ask friends and family for help.

Asking friends and family used to be one of the only options for single men and women to find partners, and the advent of online dating has altered how we gather input from our friends and family. It’s fun and revealing to crowdsource some of your dating app use with the people in your life. Your loved ones want you to be with someone who’s good to and for you. So, ask them for their input on your profile or potential matches you want to ask out on dates.

TIP: Go over your preferences with anyone you’re asking for help, so they know what kind of person to look for on your dating app.  

6. Step out of your comfort zone.

When it comes to finding a woman, it’s important to get rid of dealbreakers or nonstarters that aren’t necessary, since this can increase the number of potential partners you meet. Even if you find that your new dating pool is a bit different than what you’re used to, you might just wind up with new friends and a lot of practice.

TIP: Choose one match filter that you would normally use and turn it off for the day.

7. Spruce up your dating app profile.

If you’re looking for a woman, online dating is a great idea – you’re no longer restricted to your neighborhood or even your city when it comes to finding a potential partner. And even better, you can choose the first impression you make, from what’s on your profile page to the photos you post, so take advantage and create one that shows you in your best light.

TIP: Have a social-media-savvy friend go through your profile so you can see how it looks to any potential dates.

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