The Best Ways to Encourage Success on eHarmony

We recently visited with eHarmony’s Customer Care team and asked a simple question, “What can every user do, as soon as right now, to encourage more success on eHarmony?” Here is what they told us:

Think Long Term

eHarmony is about the long-term. It was designed to be long-term. Remember that you’re looking for a lifetime partner, and it can take time to find that person. Don’t get discouraged – we’re helping find you Mr./Mrs. Right, not Mr./Mrs. Right Away.

Get Creative!

There’s no excuse for a boring profile. There really isn’t. Customer Care agents are here to help provide feedback and suggestions. You can also ask a family member or close friend for advice if they’ve had success on eHarmony. Having a member of the opposite sex review your profile can be especially helpful. You’re not boring – you’re amazing! Don’t be afraid to show it.

Be Cautious About Misunderstandings

As you get to know your matches online, prepare for some crossed signals and misunderstandings. Give the benefit of the doubt until you clearly establish what was meant. Don’t regret losing a close match with great potential because you missed their meaning. And don’t head for the hills because something they wrote in their profile seems off-putting to you. Ask them about it – trust us, it’s okay!

Question Your Assumptions

Our Success Couples often tell us that their ultimate match actually fell outside of some of their original assumptions and expectations. Take some time to think about the preferences you’ve established in your dating life. Sure, there may be great reasons for some of them, but others might be open to review.

Safety First!

Dating in a safe way is the MOST important thing you can do. Read the eHarmony Canada Safety Tips. You wouldn’t put yourself in a dangerous situation offline, so why do it online?

Put Your Best Foot Forward

You are displaying yourself to people who don’t know anything about you. Appearances may not be everything but it’s all your match has to go on. Use your words and photos carefully – they are the only tools to spark the interest of a compatible stranger.

Don’t View eHarmony as a Measuring Stick

Regardless of whether you’ve had lots or a little communication, try not to see your results as a reflection of your personality. There can be a wax and wane to the process which honestly isn’t related to who are as a person. Create the best profile you can, with the best photos you can, and approach your search with maximum confidence.

Do the Hard Work

Our ads show real Success Couples who are in love and that can cause some people to think using eHarmony is all laughs and joy. Some people will find their match on the first try but, for the majority, this takes time, energy and determination. It can be hard work but success is sublime, so complete that profile, reach out to your matches and date as often as possible.

Give Your Account Settings a Jolt

Don’t be afraid to revisit your match preferences. If you’ve been at it for a while and haven’t received the matches you’d like, it might be time to broaden your horizons. You might not want to date someone over 20 kilometres away, but if you met the love of your life and they lived 39 kilometres away, wouldn’t it be worth the trouble?

Use eHarmony Advice

Seriously. We offer a thriving – and FREE! – information resource on a wide variety of topics. Our sister site,, also offers more than 2,500 additional articles on dating and relationships. Trust the experts, we know what we’re talking about!

Temper Your Expectations

As with most things in life, managing your expectations properly is the key to a wonderful experience on eHarmony. Remember, meeting your soulmate on the first try is the exception, not the rule. Some people have a constant flow of great dates but you may encounter some duds along the way. Brush your shoulders off and jump right back in – this is a process that works.

You’ve got this! We truly believe in you but, remember, we’re here to help if you need it!