Anxious about an upcoming blind date? There’s no need. Here are a few tips to help you prep for a blind date, no nail-biting required.
Before the big date, bug the matchmaker: Why did she think you two would be a good match? Does he meet your future-boyfriend criteria? What does he do for a living? What does he do for fun?
The more you know before you meet, the more prepared you’ll feel. You might have an idea about what conversation topics to initiate, or what to order (or not) for dinner. (If he’s vegan, maybe skip the steak this time.)
Give yourself time to primp — but not enough time to overthink it.
Budget your time on the big day so you can get ready, but don’t spend the entire day anticipating the date. Pick out an outfit ahead of time and don’t let yourself double- or triple-guess your selection. Opt for something comfortable, accurate to your personal style, and appropriate for the occasion. (Don’t wear a cocktail dress if you’re going out for coffee; don’t wear baggy jeans to the opera. And always wear clean clothes. Hygiene matters.)
Still nervous? Crank up the feel-good tunes and dance it out. Or call a friend and ask him for his best pep talk.
If you know you’re going to be stressed in the hours before the big date, fill that time with something other than “thinking about the blind date.” Go out for brunch with a friend. Drop in on your grandmother. Tackle your to-do list. Cheer on your nephew at his softball game. Not only will it take your mind off the date, it will give you something to talk about when your date asks you about your day.
Be realistic about your expectations for the date. Remind yourself that you’re simply getting to know someone new. If there’s a spark: great. If not: that’s okay. There will be others. Expecting a blind date to lead to love isn’t fair for either of you, nor is showing up with a pessimistic attitude. Be open minded and give your date a fair chance — without putting any pressure on him to be Mr. Right.
Know what you’re looking for.
Instead of worrying about who you’ll be meeting tonight, ask yourself what you’re looking for in a relationship. The clearer you are about what you need in a partner, the more accurately you’ll be able to assess the date and/or potential the two of you might have as a couple.
Recruit a friend.
Let a friend know about the date, including the who, where and when. You are meeting a stranger after all: someone should know where you are. If it will put your mind at ease, ask that friend to text/call at a certain time to check in on you — and to help with an exit strategy if things have gone south.
Arrive early — and don’t run away.
Make a good impression and arrive five minutes early. No one wants to be left waiting, wondering if they’ve been stood up.
Agree to meet somewhere public, reasonably local, and casual. Keep the date short — coffee dates are less stressful than three-course dinners — and leave in separate vehicles. Even if you’re sure the person you’re meeting isn’t the one for you, try to give the matchmaker the benefit of the doubt and stick it out for 45 minutes or so. You might be surprised. Even if your first impression was an accurate one, at least you won’t look like a jerk for running away. Be polite and engaging — and then graciously decline a second date.
Still scared to leave the house for the great unknown? Promise yourself a small indulgence after the date, whether it’s a bubble bath, drinks with a close friend, or watching your favourite movie in bed. Even if the date provides more fizzle than sizzle, you’ll have something to look forward to when it’s over.