‘Tis the season to start brainstorming what to get your new significant other for Christmas.
Celebrating the holidays as a couple for the first time can come with its own set of logistical challenges — Do you celebrate together? Is it time to meet each other’s families? Should you go your separate ways and regroup in the new year? — and exchanging gifts can add to that stress. What do you buy someone you’ve been dating for only a few weeks or months?
Here are some Christmas gift ideas for the newly dating:
Keep it simple.
If you’ve only been dating for a few weeks, take the pressure off and agree to spend little-to-no money on each other. Give your date a beautiful handwritten note. Make him a home-cooked meal or a batch of his favourite cookies. Take her out for artisanal hot chocolate at a new downtown cafe. Show your date that you care, but don’t go overboard. You don’t want to overwhelm him or her with lavish gestures.
Show you remember.
Buy (or make) your date something that shows you’ve been paying attention. Buy her a coffee-table book full of images by her favourite modern artist or photographer. Buy him a mortar and pestle so he can become more like his hero, Jamie Oliver. Did he lose his winter gloves at the rink last week? Buy him new ones. Give a gift that says that you’re interested in getting to know who your date is and what he/she loves, and that you care about the details.
If you’re not sure what to get your new significant other for Christmas, why not give him something that will help him get to know you better? Buy him your all-time favourite book. Make her a playlist of your favourite songs and include a note about why the songs are so special to you. If you play the guitar, play a song for her. If you’re an artist, give him a framed sketch or small painting. Introduce your date to your favourite wine, movie or dessert. Simple gifts like these say that you want your date to know the real you — and that you want to share the things you love with him/her.
Give a date.
The simplest, most fail-safe gift idea is a date. Buy tickets to the symphony, an indie concert, or food and wine show. Book dance, cooking or pottery lessons. When you’ve only been dating for a short while, saying “I want to keep dating you” with your gift will be very welcomed. (Just be sure to not buy tickets for an event too far in the future. Plan your date for sometime in the next two or three weeks. You don’t want the gift to look like you’re trying to hold your date hostage for the next few months.)
What Christmas gift would you recommend for a new significant other?