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5 Hobbies Women Find Sexy

by Eharmony Editorial Team - March 5, 2009

If there's any love lesson worth noting, it's that sexiness has little to do with the way a person looks. What's more, passion for a hobby, a love for something outside oneself, is incredibly alluring to the opposite sex.

Whether men know it or not, devotion to and passion for a hobby can trump physical appearance any day. We all know the stereotypes of the rock star who makes the ladies swoon simply by stepping onstage or the jock whose on-field skills make the ladies line up against the fence. What a guy does for fun or in his free time says a lot about his character, his drive and his dedication.

Does he excel with a team and shine as a dominating leader, or is he more comfortable flying solo? Is he creative and free, or vigorously dedicated? Regardless of what the actual hobby is or how well he excels at it, a guy who cares deeply for something is interesting, perhaps even more complicated. We have compiled a list of hobbies that are sure to get the ladies to stop and notice.

Playing an Instrument or Rockin’ the Mike

Not only does it take dedication, commitment and talent to play an instrument or belt out a jam, it also takes a lot of bravado. Many women find men who can wield an instrument magnetically attractive. Whether it’s the long-haired wailer, the smooth crooner or the acoustic artsy type, a musician has the ability to lure female fans like a snake charmer.

When they aren’t on the big screen, celebrities such as Russell Crowe, Kevin Bacon and Ethan Hawke are known to dabble in music.


Anyone who donates his time and resources for the sake of others comes off as a selfless person. Whether he is a Big Brother, a kind sir who plays a hand of pinochle at the nursing home every week or a noble laborer raising roofs for the homeless, this guy is out to make the world a better place by doing what he can.

Take a cue from Hollywood hunks who contribute their time to benefit the world around them, such as George Clooney, Brad Pitt and U2 frontman Bono.

Participating in Sports

Unlike guys who watch the the game with buddies while throwing popcorn at the screen, active men who are out on the field sweating it out are sexy. Being athletic is an obvious physique builder, but it also enhances and displays a guy’s true character. Playing sports exhibits his dedication to a goal, how fierce a competitor he is and how well he interacts with others. Not to mention that commitment to a 5 a.m. run or a weekly scrimmage denotes a sexy devotion to health and, therefore, happiness.

Consider the surfing, running and biking Matthew McConaughey or the eight-pack on Mario Lopez to solidify the sexiness of sports.

Playing Mr. Fix It

A tool belt, a hammer and an “I can fix anything” attitude are throwbacks to the armor-wielding knights women read about in childhood fairytales. A man who is willing to get his hands dirty and either tear something down or create something is definitely attractive. Not only can he fix the broken pipe under the sink and clean out the gutters to save some cash, he wants to take care of things and make them better by using his brain and his brawn. Can’t blame a guy for trying to improve his surroundings.

Ladies, it’s not as if we can’t fix the faucet ourselves, but why lift a finger if handyman Ty Pennington of Extreme Home Makeover is offering to do it for you?

Risking it All

Racing through the desert on a dirt bike, cliff jumping, skydiving and rock climbing are awe-inspiring hobbies that blend the element of danger with the tough-guy “I’m not scared” stance. These adrenaline adventures are really technical feats, for which the daredevil must study and learn about techniques, physics and human survival.

Whether it’s Tom Cruise, who insists on performing his own stunts, Johnny Knoxville, who abandons safety measures with glee, or David Blaine, who tests his body and mind against the unthinkable, danger is downright sexy.

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter if your guy doesn’t pursue the aforesaid pursuits. From poetry to painting to tattoo artistry, women and men alike find fervent and committed men attractive. Stimulated by creativity, confidence and enthusiasm, women are intrigued by well-rounded individuals who participate in passionate pursuits. If your guy is invested in a cause, a hobby, a sport or an adventurous pursuit, it not only makes him happy, but also brings out the best in him, which can translate to how well he loves.