In a dating slump? Start the new year off right — or change course mid-year — with a resolution or two that will challenge you to shake up your dating life a little.
Nine dating resolutions to get you out of a slump:
1. Go on more dates!
Challenge yourself to go on one date (or more) a month for a year. Get comfortable with first dates and look at the challenge as a way to meet a bunch of new people. Take the pressure off yourself to turn every first date into a lasting relationship. Just be yourself, have fun and see what happens.
2. Date outside your “type.”
Maybe your “type” is someone you haven’t dated yet.
3. Agree to being set up by a friend.
Drop the pride and let it happen already!
4. If you haven’t already, give online dating a chance.
Everyone else is doing it.
5. Attend a local singles’ event.
Sure, singles’ events can be a little intimidating — and maybe a little cheesy, too. Just remember: worst-case scenario, you’ll have a fun story to tell your friends. Best-case scenario, you won’t be single for much longer.
Remember that friend you’re going to let set you up? Double-date with your favourite couple. The familiar faces might just help you relax and be your charming self. (Follow up the double-date with a one-on-one date, though.)
7. Dare to ask a friend: What am I doing wrong?
Then vow to approach dating differently. Maybe you’re guilty of comparing dates to an ex, or complaining too often about your work/financial/romantic situation. Stop it.
8. Act out of character — without compromising your values.
Shy? Challenge yourself to ask someone out. Always the pursuer? Let yourself be wooed a little. Doing the same thing over and over will only get you the same results. Maybe it’s time to shake things up a little.
9. Take care of you.
Bummed about dating or life in general? Eat well, learn a new skill, try something that scares you. You never know who you’ll meet in the process. (And if you don’t meet someone, you’ll likely still feel better about your life.)
Bonus: Lower your expectations, not your standards.
Just have fun! Not every date has to lead to marriage. Keep your head (and standards) high, but be open to giving more potential suitors/dates a chance.