A first date is a clean slate. When you’re first getting to know someone, even if that reliable online dating website said you were both on the same page, there are a few questions you should probably steer clear of if you’re hoping to transition a first date into a second.
Here are 10 first date questions to avoid:
1. Who did you vote for in the last election?
Unless you met your date at a campaign office, keep politics off the table.
2. Why are you single?
Also a bad question: “Are you afraid of commitment?” Don’t ask the questions a nosy aunt would ask. Just be thankful the handsome stranger you’re having dinner with is single and leave it at that for now.
3. How do I look?
Don’t fish for compliments. If your date looks great, compliment him/her. Beyond that, avoid talking about workout regimes, diet plans or physical insecurities.
4. What’s your five-year plan?
This can sound too much like an interview question. Get to know who your date is right now before you start figuring out who they want to be a few years down the road.
5. What went wrong with your ex?
Related bad question: “Have you ever been cheated on?” First dates aren’t for talking about dating histories or for complaining about exes. Stay in the moment.
6. How much money do you make?
Don’t you dare ask this.
7. Are you paying for dinner?
Ditto. Never ask someone to foot the bill. Expect to pay — or at least split the bill — and graciously accept if your date insists on paying.
8. How many kids do you want?
Related: “Would your parents approve of me?”
9. What is your greatest regret?
This feels like a trick question — and could set off an evening of depressing conversation. Try to figure out what makes your date tick, not what makes him/her feel like a failure.
10. Where do you see this relationship heading?
The answer: Nowhere if you ask that question.