Jon and Amanda
December 17th will always be a special day for me, the day eHarmony matched me with Amanda. However, I will always consider December 22nd as the best day of my life. Those several days in between were pretty much a whirlwind for Amanda and me. What we thought was a long yet worthwhile process that eHarmony laid out, lasted all of 5 days from match to face-to-face meeting. I’m not sure if this was a record, but neither one of us could stop going through the process. For us, it was constant communication for those 5 days, and it hasn’t stopped since.
We went through every step, sending each other the questions, the must haves and can’t stands, the second questions all the way to the non-chaperoned part. On the 5th day though, the day I thought would be the last day of communications with Amanda, the moment I saw her, turned out to be the best day of my life.
I had just moved to Chandler, Arizona from the east coast a month and a half prior to joining eHarmony. I did not know anyone, started a new job and I had absolutely no idea where Yuma, Arizona was, Amanda’s home town. After communicating with Amanda for those few days, I was ready to meet her regardless of the fact that she was a 2.5 hour drive from me. I suggested we go to a movie. In addition to me coming to meet her, this would make it even more comfortable for Amanda, meeting in a public area. I got there a little early and was walking around when I saw this vision of absolute gorgeousness walking toward me, and what I thought at that moment, would be the first and last time I would see her. Granted, we messaged/texted online, we talked on the phone, we had many interests and personality traits in common, everything was clicking on all cylinders, but when I saw her, I forgot all about those things. We had traded a couple photos previous our meeting, but those photos did her no justice whatsoever. After I said “WOW” in my head, I don’t know how many times, I simply thought, “There is no way this amazing looking woman is going to want to go out with me again”.
I’m usually pretty confident when it comes to most things in my life. I have been an executive protection specialist, trained people in self-defense/self-confidence, given people personal financial and tax advice. But here, my confidence simply drifted away….even after we finished watching a THIRD movie in a row and getting a bite to eat. By the end of the evening, holding hands, I was still so unsure that she would go out with me again. Regardless of my unfounded lack of optimism, I still asked her if she wanted to meet with me another time. She said yes, and of course with my insecurity of just asking the question, I gave her a way out. I said, “just to make sure that you’re not being polite…” (regardless of the fact that we just watched 3 movies together, went out to dinner, and were holding hands) “I’d like for YOU to call ME if you really would like to see each other again. That way, if I hear from you or don’t hear from you, I’ll know for sure what your answer is”. Of course she agreed.
I walked her to her car, gave her a hug, then turned around and began walking to my own vehicle. That was the longest walk to my car ever. I had ANOTHER 2.5 hour drive home. 5 hours of driving to meet and spend time with someone that I met online. After years of trying other sites, did I honestly think that someone like Amanda would be that one person I had been searching for? I had to travel across the country, after living my entire life on the east coast to meet the one woman I would end up spending the rest of my life with? I must really be an idiot. As I got into my car, before I even got out of the parking lot, the phone rang. It was Amanda…and my dream finally became reality.
Thank you eHarmony.
PS… I drove another 5 hours the very next day also, we saw another 3 movies.
If I were to tell anyone anything about finding that special someone I would say not to use any other dating site, because, that is just what they are, dating sites. eHarmony is a life partner site and not only will find you that one person that you can share the rest of your life with, but someone that matches your views, interests, and goals of HOW you live and want to live out the rest of your life.